delhi scums

i have sampled enough books on the gender divide and i have licked through pages defining the DNA of this gulf and the benefits of working around them, i have studied human behavior and how the ecology affects it, yet, im astounded by the average man in my city - Delhi. do not get me wrong, i love my city, born here, brought up here, have traveled half the world to get back, my best of friends are here, and i have many a crushes on some of the cutest Delhi men, but the masses, they shock me, unnerve me and make me feel like running away.

as a delhi girl, one would expect me to be completely immune to the regular chagrin of this frustrated lot, eve teasing now elicits almost no reaction, college did grow me up, having witnessed at least 3 incidents of men flashing in a week, and no there was nothing much to admire, what really gets to me is the lack of respect. an average Delhi man has no respect for a woman, it is a decision i have arrived at, it starts by the guard who opens the door, the moment he sees the woman driver, his attitude changes, he believes only half the gate is sufficient for us, or the guy driving the car behind me, the moment he whiffs that i am a woman, his ego is crashed and converts him into a Schumacher! he has to over take me or else he may have to cut his manhood off!

its appalling how many times i have had to yell just to be heard that the man yelling at me should talk to me in a decent tone and manner for me to respond, the parking guy, to the mail guy...they ring the bell and on seeing a woman, they suddenly feel superior!

i have been a victim of sexual harassment at work and it was traumatic, and if i ever believed that it would end with that organisation, i was in for a rude shock, its impossible not to be harassed, its every where, its just dormant and comes alive at a least of provocation. im told n number of times that a strong attractive woman makes a man insecure, that’s just not the complete truth, its the category of men that matters not the attractiveness of the woman, its how they are brought up, its what they witness in their home.

a friend recently asked me what can we do as a society to make women feel better, i told him change men, their mindset, teach them respect and we will be happy.

i wish they would see that they don’t have to be threatened, they only have to believe in themselves and it can be a happy place, till then, watch out disrespecting wriggling scum, i don’t forgive easy...